The whole process of spirituality is not to become a better person, to have metaphysical experiences or even to find God. The process is about knowing the self for in that knowing all is revealed. More precisely, it's about learning all that you are not - the sorrows, the personas, the occupation, the possessions, and the one thousand other labels we use to define who and what we are. As a starting place, use these definitions that you once used to define yourself and try re-using them to evaluate what you are not. See who is left...